Tradition, tradition
>> Friday, November 20, 2009
Traditionalists are sometimes the most hypocritical of people. We Christians preach a gospel of grace and we pride ourselves of being free from regulation. "Look at them", we say "They pray five times a day and put so much emphasis on outward appearance and veiling". But how different are we from them? Whether to veil or not to veil. Whether women are allowed to speak during service. Whether drums are allowed during singing. Hemlines low enough so as not to 'stumble' our brothers in Christ. These very issues that seem so petty have torn churches apart. Since when has religion been about form and not substance? Ask ourselves first whether we have been ministering to the poor and neglected, whether we have been seeing to the needs of the abused and jaded amongst us. Christ always told us to extract spirit and principles from the law instead of taking law for law's sake. For example, when his disciples were picking grain on the Sabbath and the Pharisees scolded them, Christ said that the Sabbath was for man and not the man for Sabbath.
The Bible says 'man looks at outward appearance, but God looks at the heart'. But how many times have we looked at outward appearance? How many times have you heard an aunty say "This boy is smart, but it's a shame he doesn't study hard", or "This girl is so hardworking, what does she see in that boy", or "that boy only knows how to waste his parents' money"? Gossip goes on and on about other families. That woman is too overbearing, that man is lazy, bla bla bla bla bla. Must we look down on people because they migrate or have decided to attend another church? When will we have a kingdom mentality about things? We all still worship the same God! How many personal conversations have we had with the subjects of our speculation? How can we sound so authoritative about people we hardly know?
I have learnt that man is more than the sum of his abilities. I would know that because I've spent most of my life being taught to be defined by my abilities. "Wah, Crissy can bake brownies, can play the piano, can cook and clean, can draw and speak well, she can do this and do that. Crissy learned to read at age 2 and a half and will become a successful rich architect!" Big fat freaking deal. I was never happy pursuing all those things anyway. If anything, the more I learnt the more depressed I got. The empty praise never satisfied.
The joy, I finally realized, comes from the relationships that I share with others. It comes when I teach my students how to sing a Michael Jackson song and we're happily plinking and plonking at the piano. It comes when they tell me about their hopes and their little sibling squabbles. It comes from long conversations at the mamak. When will we stop talking about each other and instead talk to each other? If you believe the speech of others, I can be either portrayed as a slanderous, gossipy, touchy emo bitch or a self-sufficient do-gooder hardworking saint. What will you believe?
If only people would just look up for a moment. Look up from the muddy mess of legislation and look at the heart.
Read more...“I wept recognizing that no one was perfect, and that if we expected to be loved for all our imperfections, why are we so reluctant to accept and forgive the imperfections of others?”
Yasmin Ahmad

